A Good Book

Well this will be my last official post. The next one will be the paper I wrote on this subject and will contain many of the ideas I have shared throughout my posts. In other words you don’t have to waste your time reading it.

Again, the main focus of this blog is to inform those seeking a significant other about what to look for during the dating process to ensure a satisfying marriage. Marriage is an investment, an investment of ones self to another person, and therefore should not be taken lightly. Of course there will be ups and downs just like the market but we need to make sure that we choose someone that is gradually moving up despite inevitable highs and lows that accompany marriage. To avoid falling in love with someone that is moving in the opposite direction, I recommend the book Falling In Love For All The Right Reasons, by Dr. Neil Clark Warren. Surprising right? I think I’ve mentioned this book or Dr. Warren’s name in every post however I haven’t said much about his experience.

Dr. Warren has been a marriage counselor for over the past three decades, almost half his life time. In his 30+ years of counseling, Dr. Warren has been able to witnessed the great decline and gain a great understanding on why people are divorcing or unhappy with their current marriage. Throughout his career, Dr. Warren has identified 29 dimensions of compatibility, a guideline for the marriage go-getters. Here they are: Good character, the quality of your self-conception, red flags, anger management, obstreperousness, understandings about family, family background, intellect, similar energy levels education, appearance, sense of humor, mood management, traditional vs. nontraditional personalities, ambition, sexual passion, artistic passion, values, industry, curiosity, vitality and security, autonomy vs. closeness, communication, conflict resolution, sociability, adaptability, kindness, and finally dominance vs. submissiveness. Each one of these dimensions is discussed in detail with real non-hypothetical stories or situations, putting each dimension into a realistic perspective. Though it may be difficult, Dr. Warren suggests that you should find someone who meets all 29 dimensions. This task obviously requires a lot of work, work that people would rather not do, so they do the bare minimum. If you want to be sure about your relationship and marriage, I recommend this book. Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this blog. To those that made any comments, thank you. It is nice to receive feedback whether or not you agreed with any of the claims made throughout this blog. Best wishes to you.